So you’re being truthful in your Christian online dating site, but how can you tell if the other person is lying? The web can be a very unsafe place. We have to be absolutely certain about the good faith of the other person before revealing any personal details. Here are a few tips to help you with this.
One very effective way of finding out if a person is lying is to ask them very pointed questions about a specific interest you’re familiar with. If they fumble or gives vague answers, then this is a warning sign.
Another thing you could do is jot down whatever details they choose to reveal from the very start. Then, in subsequent encounters, nonchalantly question them about the details. If there is a definite contradiction, they’re probably lying.
Ask them seemingly general questions which in fact have a very definite purpose. For example, ask what he or she is looking for in a relationship. Write down the answer. After two or three encounters, repeat the question again and see whether the answers match.
Above all, trust the Lord in these situations. He knows every person’s heart and their true desire. If you’re tuned into His voice, he’ll set off the warning bells if something’s not right. And if that happens, obey! No matter how good the relationship has gone so far. There’s someone else out there who’s better for you, and God knows it-trust Him!
And so the chatting goes on and things are going smoothly. When you feel you can really trust them, it might be time to move to phone conversations.
Talking over the phone is another step towards intimacy, so my advice is to start with a pay phone rather than with your home phone. A lot of personal information can be gleaned from your phone number. Remember, this is a giant leap towards building a relationship so it’s better to be safe than sorry.
It’s really no big deal, and you can afford to tell them that you’re just being wary. They should understand. If they don’t, then there’s a good chance that they won’t understand a lot of other things as well. In that case, dump the relationship and move on.