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Online Christian Dating: How To Make Small Talk

When making small talk on a Christian Dating site, stick to topics on the light side. This is not the time for intimate details about one's life.

Talk about the weather, sports, movies, music, food, church, the Bible, whatever you may have in common. Avoid politics, family matters or anything in bad taste. Jokes are okay but anything off color should always be avoided, not just at the beginning but at any time during the relationship.

If you've talked a few times and you feel comfortable with it, you may want to give them a personal e-mail address. But don't give them your home address yet. Set up a free address at Yahoo or Hotmail for conversing. Remember this is the first step towards virtual intimacy. Moving things from a public chat room to a private inbox is a big step, so trust the Holy Spirit here.

The key is to not get Too Intimate Too Fast!

There are many people who feel that e-mail will never have the warmth or the personal touch of letters and cards sent through the mail. That may be true, but e-mail has an advantage of the here and the now.

Because you're aware of the fact that they are reaching out to you in the same way you are reaching out to them, there is a tendency for an intimacy to build up even before you know it.

The medium ceases to be the deciding factor, so when a person presses you for immediate information, you might let certain details slip out unless you're well prepared.

Be on your guard all the time and keep constantly reminding yourself that they are, after all, still a stranger. The best thing to do is avoid instant intimacy altogether.

It doesn't really matter if they find you cold or reserved. This can easily be resolved by telling them that it takes some time for you to become comfortable with a person (which is true for virtually everyone). This is also an endearing quality that should impress possible suitors.

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